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When you meet someone and they show you their true colors, don’t try to repaint them.
When you try to save a toxic relationship or an abusive person, that is called a trauma response.
It’s a way of feeling better by repressing your own trauma by playing savior for others.
Your relationship doesn’t need to make sense to anyone, except you and your partner. It’s a relationship, not a community project.
Always believe people when they show you who they truly are.
Many times what we call…
“Giving people the benefit of doubt”
is our way of disrespecting our own boundaries with a delusional belief that they’d change.
We make excuses for people we like when they don’t treat us very well because we are too scared to accept the fact that they could care less about us.
The earlier you come to terms with this, the better off you’ll be.
Stop wasting your time on these types of people.
Always pray to God for guidance in your relationship.
Having effective communication is extremely crucial.
Communication is more than talking for hours at night time before you go to bed. Its the quality of the conversation that truly matters.
It’s one thing to know how to talk, it’s another to know the right questions to ask & the right conversations that will open your partner’s heart and mind.
Always pay attention to how you feel deep down when you’re talking to someone.
If you feel like you’re settling for less, then that’s what is most likely happening. Your soul knows when everything isn’t in place.
Don’t ever ignore this feeling.
Don’t get into a relationship if you always want things to go your way.
There has to be a compromise, but a healthy one.
Also, it’s easier to compromise when you know your partner has your interest at heart.
A person’s morals, standards and mindset will be the things that raises your kids. Those are the things that will make them a good spouse and parent. Not their looks, so choose wisely.
Pursue a relationship with someone that knows the smallest details about you. Like the time you wake up, how you like your coffee, your favorite smell, your love language, what movies make you cry. Never settle for the bare minimum.
Take my advice and …. Stop crossing oceans for people that wouldn’t jump a puddle for you.
Credit: Bret
